Билли уже достаточно культурен, чтобы себя сдержать, но не настолько воспитан, чтобы внутренне не яриться.
Улыбаться, когда хочется всех убить - непросто!
Сдерживание гнева - некоторое напряжение есть, но в принципе все реально.
Suppression of emotions is an active influence on strong (rapidly flowing, untwisted) emotions directed against their natural course with the aim of destroying them. War with emotions.
In the video "The Man from the Boulevard of the Capuchins": Billy is only learning to control emotions, and according to old habits he must now become angry and smash the inn. Instead, he suppresses his anger with difficulty, pronouncing the words: "Thank you for reminding me that this is my steak!"
With what confusion of emotion is confused
What is not confused by the suppression of emotions!
Suppression of emotions is often confused with repressed feelings: and this, in fact, about different things. Suppression of emotions is a situational decision about the external expression of emotion. There was an undesirable emotion, it can not be shown - the person tensed and retained the external calmness: suppressed in the first place the external expression of emotion. On this usually everything ends: tense - concealed - everything has passed. The suppressed experience is about another, not about the situational and not about the external expression, but about the deep, about the sick or difficult inner experience. Such an experience torments and does not stop, I want to escape from him, but where? We try not to think about it, forget it, slowly manage to get distracted from it, it seems to disappear - but in fact it continues to smolder, which is revealed.
Another common mistake - for people with depressed emotions are people of reasonable and reserved. The propensity to rational thinking and the lack of a tendency to experience in any way the suppression of emotions does not speak, and restraint to the manifestation of negative emotions to harm to health does not result in any way. See →
And, which is very important, one should not confuse emotion suppression and emotion management. The difference between them is the same as between the suppression of the uprising and the management of the workers’ collective. When emotions are obedient and relatively calm, they do not need to be suppressed, you just need to run the necessary ones.
Suppression and control of emotions are also different things. Control is exercised over unruly (involuntary) emotions of medium strength, repression - against strong unruly emotions. They have different consequences: control is almost harmless, but suppression of already untwisted emotions, if it becomes a way of life - a thing quite harmful. Such suppression of emotions is an attempt to contain the volcano, which leads to even greater explosions. See →
Prevention of suppression of emotions
It is not true that a person for whom negative emotions are not characteristic necessarily suppresses them. Negative emotions are only habitual, and not necessarily mandatory reactions. Educated people have in principle less negative than those of less educated people, and a person with a high level of spiritual culture is in principle not negative. Do not suppress the negative to someone who does not create it. Especially - who does not promote it.
A small negative is natural and happens to be appropriate in life, but it is not necessary to suppress it. The question is solved at the level of a natural switching of emotions, like in children. It is absolutely natural for a child to experience up to a dozen emotions within two minutes: joyfully, to get angry, angry, offended, distracted, play a fool, smile, turn again ... Switching - without any suppression. See Managing emotions.
Systematic suppression of emotions is usually caused by a number of reasons. The most important of them are:
• a repressive attitude, a tendency to launch and experience emotions and emotions instead of solving questions on the case;
• negativism, generating a burgeoning of emotions of a predominantly negative plan;
• cultural or family templates about bad emotions whose experience is unacceptable.
Emotions do not need to be suppressed, if you deal with business and do not initially launch them. For example, an active person knows what a business format is, is used to being in a business format and is busy with business, he is busy with business, not emotions. And with his health, everything is in order. Look Active person
How to save health in a tense situation?
Anyone who, in a tense situation, does not care about his health and suppresses negative emotions, without addressing the situation as a whole, does not act prudently. Headaches and tiredness of happiness in their personal lives and successes in work also do not contribute, gastritis - not joy, insomnia - longing. At the same time, it is not very difficult to take care of health in a tense situation, see →
Repression of emotions is a conception accepted in psychoanalysis, according to which unacceptable emotions are forced out of consciousness into the unconscious.