Look at the top picture. In the middle - a person, left and right of him - emotions. Emotions on the left, left emotions - those that make a person do this or that, which are the cause of his actions, thoughts and emotions. But the emotions on the right, the right emotions - those caused by the person himself, his mind and will.
You decided to get angry - you are angry. If you decide to forgive and be benevolent - you smile and are benevolent.
When a person is a reason, and his emotions are a consequence, everything is right. When the source is the human mind, and emotions are its tool, it’s great. Such emotions are good. Such emotions are perfectly developed in women, this is the basis of emotional intelligence, and this is often what so many men lack...
Therefore, when emotion is understood as the power of temperament and emotional expressiveness, emotions are fine. High energy of emotions, expressive gestures and strength of temperament is a useful tool and a successful personal trait, as it is easily combined with the rationality of decisions and behavior.
But the left emotions are another, namely the inability to control oneself.
You wanted to get angry, but you were smiled at, and you forgot about your decision... You decided to forgive and be benevolent, but inside everything bubbles, besides your will you speak harshly, accuse and reproach.
It’s a tendency to mindlessly throw out feelings, miserably complain and hysterical.
And what can I do? I was flooded with emotions!
Likewise, impressionability and impulsive response as a manifestation of emotionality is not a joy, but a problem characteristic and a bad habit that forces people to waste, make silly purchases and make decisions about which the person himself and those who are with him will regret.
Therefore, the question: "Emotionality - is it good or bad?" - you can answer simply and briefly: "Left emotionality, when our behavior is determined not by us, but by our emotions – it’s bad." It is not right when emotions are the cause, and we are the consequence of our emotions, but right emotion is good and excellent. We must manage the decisions ourselves, and emotions should be our means and tools."
Total: Remove the left emotion and develop the emotional right.
Indeed, when emotions control us, it’s silly. When our bright emotions serve our reasonable purposes, it’s fine. Let our emotions be the tools that make our face alive, a smile - bright, and speech - incendiary. But it is unacceptable, when feelings overshadow the mind, and decisions are made due to momentary impulses. Emotions can not and should not be the cause of our actions and decisions. The reason for our actions can and should be only our mind, and emotions can only help us when they are needed.
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