In any case, there are rules: both on the road and in the education. Supporters of correct education believe that reasonable rules in the hands of reasonable people are useful and necessary, moreover, they are the basis for preparing a child for real life. Proper education - education, built on the basis of reasonable rules and going in the right direction.
Good, correct rules in the family take care of everyone: about children, about adults, about dad, and about mother. Therefore, there are rules not only for children, there are rules for adults. The right rules are not against someone, they are for everyone.
At the same time, you need to know that proper education is not popular with everyone. Rules and reason - it s more masculine, women are closer to love and feelings. Education based on love sometimes quite successfully complements correct education, sometimes between them there are disagreements.
Correct education is little like ordinary, that is not very well-bred children. Is it possible to change their attitude to a more positive one so that children become rules internally to accept? It is possible, but not quickly. Usually this happens not earlier than children become elementary brought up. While children do not understand the meaning of the rules, they have to be accustomed to life with rules rules in addition to their will and desire. However, wise educators can do this so that children do not even notice.
Rules and correct upbringing are not loved by all adults, and it is usually associated with heavy memories of their not quite a happy childhood, where there were or not quite reasonable rules, or reasonable rules were put into life not in the best way. Many adults are cool about correct parenting for other reasons, considering that the rules make it difficult to see the specific situation in its uniqueness, that the rules in principle clamp down on freedom, that everything is individual and that the right direction in education is what I wanted most here and now. More often than not, it is the ideology of free education, or rather, the spontaneous approach to upbringing, and at this point the supporters of upbringing on the basis of feelings connect with them.
Speaking about the types of upbringing, first of all they write about such types as indulgent hyperprotection, emotional rejection, dominant hyperprotection, increased moral responsibility, neglect, cruel treatment. It is obvious enough that these are all types of problem education. It’s not what parents choose, it’s that. that at problem parents it turns out. It is often written that these types of problem education are opposed by authoritative education: a combination of warmth and relatively strict control of the child, but such control that the child understands and is carried out clearly and consistently, so that children know what to expect if they violate the rules established by parents. That is, there are many problem types of upbringing, and correct education is one thing: "authoritative upbringing." Is it so? Unfortunately, it is not.
Those (rare) parents who come to education consciously, who think about the upbringing of children who choose, choose their own style and way of parenting for themselves - also face a choice. A conscious upbringing is not one, but different models of upbringing, each of which has its own peculiarities, its pros and cons. It is not obvious that hard education can not be a conscious and once adequate choice, many parents are attracted to the model of natural education with virtually no social prohibitions, but even relatively free upbringing with reasonable restrictions can be to some extent directive. How will be correct? We can offer our description of the basic models of education and their comments. We hope. that our best readers in the world will make their own. the most correct choice!