What university a girl to enter who wants to become a psychologist, it is not so important. It is useful for a girl in any liberal arts college to learn, and where she will then work or get married, this question is already very much the next. If the question "Where do I go to study to become a psychologist?" the guy who graduated from school and seriously thinks about his future career in psychology will ask, I will discourage him from this idea. The profession of a psychologist is somewhat akin to an actor’s profession: the best actors are envious of everything, and most actors are poor in not very well-paid theaters. A psychologist is one of the best professions in the world, but most ordinary psychologists can not earn money nor improve their personal life.
Why? Because they did not know what to learn, and because they were taught badly.
Understand what you want.
Many people dream of working as a psychologist, but often present this: "I will help people. I will meet with good people, talk to them heart to heart and grow with them as a person. " No, you will not be paid for this. Everything is much more difficult, and difficulties will begin with schooling: studying "on a psychologist" is not simple and not always interesting: there are few strong universities, preparation for a psychologist is weak and quickly ceases to please: theory, repetition, impractical knowledge. Next, who are you going to study for? If the therapist, then after graduating from the university without work experience, you are likely to take on a meager salary in the district consultation for interviews with single women and unhappy older people who want to communicate with someone. However, a psychologist is not necessarily a psychotherapist, and it is not necessary to close oneself to helping people with mental difficulties. Perhaps, instead you will want to advise people who do not have enough worldly experience in family relationships or in the upbringing of children, but this is not psychotherapy, but counseling. And maybe you will be attracted by the wonderful work of the coach, but this is a completely different format and other skills.
In any case, you will have to join one or another school. There are four strong schools today: NLP, psychoanalysis, Gestalt therapy and the Syntone-approach. They are different, and the experts of one approach often do not understand the specialists of the other. To decide, meet with representatives of these schools, talk, look, look for your own.
Take a closer look at working with a group
If you are a talented and successful person, then I will recommend you, as a future psychologist, to take a closer look at group psychological work. Working with the group is lively, brighter and richer than the work of an individual, with one person. If we talk not about interest for you, but about efficiency in terms of result, then here group work often has an advantage over the work of the individual. Of course, there are also many options here: groups can be large and small, groups of psychotherapeutic or business format, there are personal trainings, there are trainings of specific skills, but in any case it is really an interesting work. What trainings are most interesting to conduct? Of course, this is an amateur, but usually the most enthusiastic trainers are those who conduct personal trainings. It’s another matter that high-quality personal trainings can only be carried out by psychologists of the highest qualification, and there will be a lot to learn here.
It seems to many that it is enough for a psychologist to be a good, kind person, to be able to listen and empathize with people. No. The ability to understand and feel the people you need must be compulsory, but it will not replace you either real professionalism or good intellect. A good psychologist should have a very good head, a beautiful memory, a quick and clear logical thinking - at least in order to study a lot of complex professional literature. To melt all this into high professionalism, you will need diligence, that is, a strong priest and the same strong health. In general, please note that the work of the psychologist trainer is associated with high physical loads, so you need to teach yourself to lead a healthy lifestyle, go to bed on time. If you get upset by a dream, you will begin to "swim" your mood, and against a background of heavy physical exertion and emotional stress, depression may start ... Total: lead a healthy lifestyle, take care of your health. It is important.
Study the attitude of others around to you
It’s quite easy to find out whether you can become a psychologist, especially a psychologist-coach, - just look at how people treat you. Do your relatives respect you, what are your relationships with relatives: with your mother, with your brothers and sisters? How often do friends or relatives consult you? Do colleagues appreciate you? If you are a student and you do not yet have bosses and colleagues, who are you at the student group level: a leader or an outsider? Good leaders, leading psychological groups, become leaders, people who are authoritative in a particular team or group. Do you have any experience in leading teams or groups? For example, if you went on hikes, were you successful there, were you a leader? Did you participate in the KVN and were you the captain of the team? If so, then you have a successful base and experience in leadership of groups, then something is shining for you. If you do not have a successful experience, then first create it, and then go to psychologists. An outsider who received a psychological education and works with other outsiders is a misunderstanding, not a psychologist. "Shoemaker without boots" can hardly be considered a professional. Start with your own success, only after that you get the moral right to teach something to others. Check yourself in the business
The best way to make sure that the work of a psychologist is right for you is to test yourself in the case. Yes, but how? Is it possible? Sometimes yes. In Syntone, for example, you can, with some effort, become a curator - assistant leader. The curator does not conduct large trainings, but helps in small classes, works with small groups of 5-10 people, where mastering and working out the material that the master gave at the main training takes place. Of course, the curator is not allowed to work either, there will also be compulsory studies, but it is quite feasible, and the result is attractive. Working with a small group as a curator, you will get acquainted with group dynamics, learn to manage the attention of the group, speak to people, present yourself, be attentive to people, get out of difficult situations. You will receive invaluable experience as a coach-psychologist, and most importantly, you can really decide whether you can and want to become a coach.
Start a career with business trainings
Business trainings are interesting. Be interested in them at least in connection with the fact that business coaches earn the best. This is a demanded branch of our profession, and it is easier to master it than personal trainings. Another thing is that here you really need real business experience and your business success. This is not the same as a psychological education, and when a business coach gets to work, the defining moment is whether he has the experience of a successful business or profile work in a successful company. In any case, if you are teaching sales, you yourself must be able to sell yourself famously. By the way, the most standard-demanded trainings are sales training: you can live comfortably in holding them. But there is a danger, sales training is a fairly monotonous work, which after four years can become a routine: it came, worked, not including the head and soul, and all. There is a professional burnout, and it is important for trainers to feel the energy in the coach. Therefore, wherever and whichever you work as a psychologist, it is important to take care that you have interest in your work every day, every morning!
Prepare to study after the university
In whatever university you study, after receiving a basic psychological education, you will have to study for several more years, mastering this or that specific style of practical psychology. This is usually not taught in universities, but you will need to master: either NLP, or psychoanalysis, or Gestalt approach, or Syntone-approach... It is best, while getting higher education, in parallel to study in the work of a trainer in authoritative training centers. In my opinion, in Moscow there are three good coaching schools: the school of business trainers of Zhanna Zavyalova, the center "Class" of Leonid Krol and the "Training of trainers" of Olga Paratnova in the "Training Center Syntone".
There is another way to get everything at once and seriously: these are two years of study at the University of Practical Psychology. At the University you will learn to conduct webinars and trainings, master consulting and coaching, make your website and start to develop yourself, creating yourself a professional future. The main tool of the psychologist s work is his personality, and in the course of working at the Distance you will develop all the skills necessary for the psychologist’s work, develop as a person, establish relationships in the family and at work, build your career - this is also included in the study program. According to the documents, you will receive a state diploma, certificates "NLP Practitioner", "Specialist in Eriksson’s hypnosis", "Coach, Leading Distances". Excellent graduates receive a Certificate of a European-type Specialist from the European Association of Counseling (EAC).
And after that, many more years will sharpen your skills under the guidance of masters. Understand the main thing: to work as a psychologist means to learn all your life.