Good relationships are relationships in which there is harmony and joy (at least - satisfaction).
Building a good relationship is not always easy, but not more difficult than living in a bad relationship. To build and maintain a good relationship, it takes as much energy as to quarrel. So why then waste your energy to quarrel, if for the same forces you can live in a good way?
The foundation of good relations
For good relations, we need sympathy in interpersonal relations and the following personal qualities of partners:
• positive - internal exercise Good
• constructive - for the beginning master the Total Yes
• willingness to cooperate.
If your relationship is difficult to call good, frequent grievances and conflicts, then you need to start growing up. Pay attention to your behavior and requirements to exhibit to yourself, and not to a partner. If you see that your good attitude starts to decompose the partner, then educate him - not for yourself, but for the sake of him and with you, and with other people, and with yourself, the relationship was good. Good relationships, caring for each other is the basis of love.
That the relationship was good
To the relationship was good,
• We must meet.
In order for the relationship to be good, you need to meet. No matter how wonderful you are, if you do not meet, good relations will gradually fade, become memories of good relations, and people have good relationships no longer with you, but with someone else. Your place is - busy.
• We need to talk, communicate.
Communication makes people closer and, most importantly, they understand each other better. When people, being near, basically keep silent or communicate formally, gradually it starts to weigh down. Take care that the music of communication constantly accompanies your meetings!
• It is necessary to give.
The most important and best gift is you, if you are an open, interesting and positive person. But just your interest - it does not mean anything, you really need to take care of that every your meeting was a gift for a person. What did you give him during your last meeting? It does not need to be souvenirs, flowers or cake - what interesting topics did you raise, what did the person feel during this conversation, did he have an interest in continuing this conversation? What business or entertainment did you propose, was your presence happy for a person?
What spoils the relationship
• reproaches, accusations and resentments, objections and disputes (see Conflictogenes),
• finding out the relationship, see →
• ambiguity in expectations, playing telepathy ("He must guess!")
• in case of disagreement - the inability to negotiate and the violation of agreements,
Good and established relations
Good relationships are not always established, sometimes the absence of understandable expectations and arrangements is replaced simply by the fact that people treat each other with sympathy and do not allow conflicts. In this case, people who think about the prospects, take care to build relationships and make them well-adjusted. See →