Автор: Н.И. Козлов

What is love

Love is an interested, caring and considerate attitude to that and for the sake of what we love or whom we love. You need to talk about love for a long time, you need to study the right manifestations of love, and at the University I give students many tasks on this topic. But briefly, love is an unselfish and joyful concern.

This is an interested, caring and attentive attitude towards a person, things or any cases and events. If an adult loves, an intelligent and responsible person, other requirements are added to love: love should not be blind, but sighted and intelligent, not only by feeling but also by responsible behavior. Love without respect is short-lived and impermanent, respect without love is cold and feeble.

If, of course, we are talking about love, not just about falling in love. Many people confuse love and love, but in vain...

Many people judge love by their feelings and feelings of their partner, but it seems that the feeling of love is only a reflection, only a glare of that present (or not of the present...) that on actually lives in the shower. A separate and not simple conversation - about the foundations of love, about the driving forces that give birth to love. In any case, the feelings of lovers are very different, containing both rapture, and tenderness, and fear, and hatred - depending on the kind of love.

If we take a closer look at love, we will see a lot more in it. In love, as in respect, there are several lines. Love is not just feelings and behavior, it is a certain way of life with its values, world perception, focus of attention and even breathing and intonation. More:

The first is a hierarchy of values. The higher the beloved in the hierarchy of values, the more one can talk about love. If a man loves a woman, but football is still dearer to him, the price of his love is not high.

The second is a vision of the world in love. Everyone who loved, remembers how the world is changing in this state. In love-joyful care the world is bright and spacious. In this celebration of life, surrounding people, things and things become for you alive, beautiful and meaningful: loved ones. On the other hand, everyone remembers: in love-suffering, the world is gray, dull, small and oppressive.

Live love is always kinesthetic. To the beloved (man, business) pulls, I want to touch and intimacy.

One of the simple checks about love is the question: "Where is your soul?" This is a question about the focus of attention in love. In love, caring for your beloved, you think, focus on him, not yourself. You love when you see your loved one as if in a ray of light, in the ray of your warmth. And you take care that your heat constantly warms the loved one, make sure that this ray of heat constantly over this person is present. You can say that in true love I do not, there is only a beloved. In the curve of love, on the contrary, a person can be completely focused on himself. In love, WE loving do not stand against each other, but look in one direction.

The more people grow up, the more they understand that love is not so much a feeling as behavior. You can say as much as you like, but what matters most about your love is your business. The behavior of love is a caring, where the beloved is self-worth, and attention to detail. However, each of us has his own languages ​​of love, and it is better to communicate his love to a loved one so that he can understand our intentions.

If you get into the soul deeper, the most faithful feature of love is the person’s being in the position of love, in the position of WE. This is a special state of mind and mind, when a loved one ceases to be separate from you, when he becomes a part of our life, when in any matter you think about him and his interests.

The position of love is not about ourselves, but about us. We take care of both of us together.

The basis of love in the position of the parent is caring. The basis of love in the position of the child is craving. The basis of love in the position of an adult is meaning.

Are there any clear indicators that would determine whether he likes or not? And I love - or just came up with and persuade myself? How to check, if seriously – is there love or not? What is between us - love or something else? Clear boundaries are not here, but it’s worth considering some things. The boundaries of love are our subjective signs and boundaries, within which, with all the variety of manifestations, we say that it is love after all. And beyond the boundaries - no longer love.

Personal characteristics give the form and the formula of love its arrangement. You can say - how many people, so many kinds of love. However, are they equivalent, are equal different kinds of love? Is it possible to say that some form or kind of love is more perfect than the other? Is it possible to find the most perfect kind of love? All these are questions about the Formula of Love: a short formulation that expresses the essence of Love with a capital letter.

You can love someone as bright and sincere as you want, but he can not understand this. Love has its own languages ​​of love: care and time, time and attention, sex and obedience... And if you want your desire to convey your love to your loved one, he understood and shared, give him your love not as you want, but in language , close and understandable beloved. That’s all strictly... Joy to you!

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