The most common questions on managing one’s own state are:
• How to regain or cheer yourself up
• How to cheer yourself up
• How to clean yourself up (for example, How to calm down before the exam)
• How to reduce fatigue
• What to do with your own aggression
Among the most common techniques and recommendations that do not require special knowledge and equipment, we note the following.
Maintaining a diary is the simplest and most effective way to manage your own state. With the help of the diary it is convenient to keep track of your emotional state, analyze your beliefs and experiences, get rid of your grievances and create yourself a piggy bank of positive energy.
Many (especially women) are helped by simple rituals aimed at liberation from negativity. Write a letter to the person who has offended you, throw out your emotions there - and burn this letter. To say their grievances and say: "I let my grievances go!", The more it’s easier to say things to friends - things are quite common and effective just as much as people believe in their effectiveness.
Careful to be with the recommendations "If you are angry and you are overwhelmed by aggression, do not suppress it in yourself, find a way to defuse it. Throw it out in words, throw it out in action, and you will feel better. If you suppress your emotions, this will have a bad effect on your health. " It is not true.
And there is no doubt that this is because our inner state is inseparably connected with our body, and in the most direct way - with the drawing of his life and movement. A smile is not just the tension of facial muscles, the habit of smiling is a simple key to improving your mood. Did facial gymnastics - the face became alive. Adjusting his posture and straightening his shoulders, we restore our vivacity and self-confidence. Light and strong gait in the most reliable way gives us the energy and the feeling of the ground beneath our feet. Thinking about the role of the body, clean up at least two things: make yourself a good morning and the right evening, and your state will start to please you to a much greater extent.
The next important point is the motor activity. It is sometimes difficult to reach a sports hall, but from it we leave, charged with energy. Sport, dance, yoga, as well as walking and even sex are the simplest, most accessible and useful means of recovering strength and energy.
Vigorously moved - you need to rest. Correctly to have a rest! See the rest rules in a separate article, but here you need to remember the benefits of muscle relaxation. Relaxation calms, relieves fatigue, creates conditions for positive self-suggestion. In a stressful situation it is always useful to go to bed and sleep: "Morning is wiser than evening," more trained people use auto-training with great benefit.
Surprisingly few people know about the role of breathing in managing their own condition. Breathing accompanies us everywhere, maybe that’s why we do not notice how, by changing our breath, we thereby change our state. Those who are able to maintain a quiet breath, maintains inner peace. Even breathing with an extended exhalation helps to calm down, breathing with sharp exhalations, even more screams brings the body into a fighting mood. Surprised "Oh?", As an easy way out, removes a slight insult, and the secret of the impact of singing is not so much in the words of the song as in the combination of harmonics and in the rhythm of the breath contained in the song.
The song excels well from the state of neurotic trance, although it often plunges into another trance ... To manage this, you can and need to select music and songs that help you get into the right state. Through music you can calm down, you can energize, depending on your goals. It is important only to remember the need for the initial tuning for music: the fact is that a melody that is too different from your state can cause rejection. From the state of anguish, not rock n roll, but at the beginning something more calm, like in a state of rabies, meditative tunes of beats even more. First you need to tune in to what is consonant with the soul, and only through a couple of melodies you can gradually deduce yourself to the state that is necessary.
The next item is a change of scenery. The world around us is the source of our impressions, and impressions are imprinted on us, already becoming our internal state. By changing the surrounding situation, we can change our mood. It’s not even necessary to travel to distant countries, left the office on the street - and we are already other people. The girl put on shoes and a new blouse - feels like a queen. We have made repairs - have renewed life. Boredom and sorrow save a circle of good friends, and a meeting with a loved one gives a feeling of closeness, warmth and happiness. Attentive people notice that even a change in the internal situation changes one’s self-awareness. New situations require a new role from us and give us a feeling of freshness. Analogously break the shell of gray life training of acting skills, and, in general, trainings for personal growth and personal development. Even a discussion in which a person presents an unexpected point of view, knock us out of the previous state, and sometimes this is very useful.
And finally - the anchor of emotions. What is the anchor of emotion, know almost everything: these are the experiences that you personally have associated with these or that emotions and states. That same melody ... - remembered, and tears in his eyes. This photo, which always gives rise to such warm feelings ... A blouse with which I have memories of happiness ... And even croissant rolls, with which the feeling of comfort and joy always comes back - all this can be a useful emotional anchor returning you the right feelings and conditions. However, we have already moved to the area where the psychological procedure of anchoring smoothly passes and incomprehensibly mixes with such things as simply "to amuse the carcass": to make yourself a manicure, to give yourself a massage, to immerse yourself in spa procedures and afterwards arrange a shopping holiday ...
Total - the means, methods and techniques of many, half of them with a margin is enough to any of us corrected his state and adjusted. Another question is that many choose to complain about their condition, and not change it. Apparently, nothing to do and only find the guilty - easier and more convenient than taking responsibility for their lives. And what is your choice?
Professional methods of state management
Professional techniques aimed at changing the state are also very diverse. Just start this list: autogenic training, visualization, classical and ericsson hypnosis, desensitization, meditation ...