Автор: Н.И. Козлов

What do we want to see our children?

Sometimes this interesting idea comes to mind: "Children need to be engaged." The child needs to be developed, the child needs to be educated! " - It’s true, only in the name of what, what do we want to get as a result? So that our child will develop all his talents and abilities? Or easier: that our child was not worse than others and at the same time not overworked? Or maybe just so that we do not get in the way? The direction of education is set sometime consciously, more often unconsciously, usually by templates, less often by the goals of upbringing. Let’s think together with you about our goals when we develop and educate our children!

However, we talk about the goals of upbringing and development when we are in a reasonable and conscious state. Do we often stay in this state? When parents, that is just young people and girls, live in the usual way for themselves, that is, without thinking, being in a poorly understood state, they do not bring up children, they just live with them and simply treat them somehow. How? In different ways ... Sometimes they get rid of children, take revenge on children, discharge themselves on children, and sometimes - give the children an example of courage, positive, love, creative attitude to life. If you do not know how to bring up children, you do not need to do this. Simply live with children, communicate with them more, be friends with children, and you will do for them the best that you can do. If you do this with joy and soul, you will still have a raised child, although you did not set this as a special goal.

At the same time, an educated child is still better than ill-bred. Unschooled children are children of the wild, living want of their own and perceiving all around them as something they can use or have to fight with. On the contrary, an elementary child is already an adequate and more useful creature than a harmful one. Yes, he is still a child, but at least - a child brought up.

A well-educated child is an educational minimum task. It’s good, but not enough. And what is the task for advanced parents, for those who want and can do more?

As a rule, good parents want to raise children in the first place healthy physically and mentally, developed (sports, culture, education, and still more a school program), smart (free, lively and accurate thinking), decent (respecting other people caring not only about themselves), happy, creative and disciplined, ready to face life’s difficulties and able to make great life projects in life.

This can be formulated more simply: it is the task to educate a child - an adult. And specific indicators - to raise an ideal employee from the child. An ideal employee is not just a thinking, disciplined and responsible person; he is a creative and enterprising person, a leader and leader, who can be entrusted with a project in the belief that he will take it upon himself and do everything. And if you are able to educate employees - you now know how to raise children, and you do not have the division of family and work. To employees at work you are treated like to your beloved children, and to your children - both to adults and responsible employees.

Putting the tasks of study and development, attentive parents are attentive to three things: 1) to what is claimed by life, 2) to the child’s inclinations and abilities and 3) to what the child himself wants. The wiser parents are, the more often they place precisely such priorities: first, what life requires, after taking into account what our people are more capable of, and, last but not least, what the child wants. Why is that? Because intelligent parents have a keen interest in just what they are more capable of and most promising in life.

But this is all a minimum. More confident parents, ready to invest in their children, set goals more serious. Their task is to raise a child who will be ahead of them. To move ahead first of all in terms of the level of culture: your child will be a person more educated than you, he will have more erudition and deeper knowledge in the directions important for his future. He will have better manners than you, your daughter will be even more feminine than your mother, and your son is more manly than your father. Your children in comparison with you will be even more collected and purposeful people, and at the same time even more spiritually persistent and happy. Yes?

And the best parents can set a maximum task for themselves. This is more than bringing up a grown-up adult from a child, more than giving your child happiness, health and life prospects. The maximum task in education is to raise children in such a way that they themselves bring up children who will be the same. And not just the same, but who will bring up children who will raise such children ... - and so on.

We emphasize that one of the biggest and most important tasks is:

To educate a child so that he sets himself the task of educating his child with a healthy, caring, creative, happy - and that the child of his child sets himself the same task !!

Children, brought up by you, should continue the idea of ​​education according to your canons. Then - grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. The system must reproduce itself. Otherwise, the project "Child" - a short-term, just for one life. This project "Child" should grow into the project "Dynasty".

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