Автор: Н.И. Козлов

The work of sorrow by Kubler-Ross

​​​​​​​The work of sorrow by Kubler-Ross is a model of the process of dying and accompanying this process of internal states of man, invented by an American psychiatrist of Swiss origin Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.

A little about the woman who created this theory, and her relationship to science. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross ( 1926-2004), a Swiss psychiatrist-medium, in the 1980s founded a spiritual and healing center, called "Shelter of inconsolable widows." In this institution, women who lost their husbands had the opportunity to join with the "posthumous essences" of their deceased spouses into a spiritual communication, including very close. Despite the fact that the deceased husbands were citizens of completely different countries, people of different ages, attitudes, statuses, and attitudes about hygiene, all women who had been through "deep mystical contact" with their long-dead spouses were found to have the same vaginal infection . The police, who paid attention to this mysterious fact, soon discovered that the role of many husbands was played by the same gentleman, namely, Kubler-Ross s confidant, circus artist Jay Burham, who skillfully used absolute darkness, which was an obligatory condition for the sessions. Actually, Burham was a peddler of a venereal disease. When he was caught, he explained that "the essence from the other world cloned him to materialize the meeting." (Rosenbaum R. Dead like her: How Elisabet Kubler-Ross went around the bend 2004, J. Grant Discarden science 2006).

As for Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s views on the perception of approaching death, the model proposed by her has no scientific base and is only a joint fantasy of a woman prone to esotericism and seriously ill people who were terribly bored in the hospital. There were no studies, there were only long conversations of the instructor of the Medical School at the University of Chicago with seriously ill single people, and the result was a lively and brightly written book. The book has become very popular. Want - read.

Actually the model Kübler-Ross

After receiving the news that a person is terminally ill, he often at the first moment denies what he heard: "It can not happen to me, it’s a mistake, you probably are talking about someone else." Denial acts as a psychological defense mechanism, protecting the mind from unbearable thoughts and experiences. This is the first stage.

Then, in the second stage, the person is seized with anger: he can become furious, indignant or envious of those who are healthy. Often the object of anger are doctors: "They are of no use. They just think about golf. They do not do the tests and prescribe the wrong treatment."

With the third stage, Kubler-Ross and her followers have confusion, because people in a difficult situation really behave differently. Some of them have a deepening sense of guilt, mysticism increases, some try to conclude deals with higher forces: "My God, if the diagnosis is not confirmed - I will quit smoking!"

Further, as a rule, depression comes: a person falls into despair and horror, loses interest in worldly problems, moves away from people.

The last stage of the Kubler-Ross is the stage of adoption. At this stage, a person begins to think about death with quiet humility: "I lived an interesting and rich life. Now I can die."

Like any theory, picked up by not too smart followers, the famous 5 stages quickly turned into dogma. Some psychotherapists were even angry with their patients when they "violated" the sequence of experiences prescribed by Kuebler-Ross ("You must not go to anger until you have passed the stage of denial!").


How to relate to this concept? Best of all in no way. Any well-propagated tale can become a fashionable theory and generate appropriate experiences and behavior. In the Middle Ages, women mingled with the devil, in the 19th century, all women fainted, at the beginning of the 20th century, all developed neuroses, infantilism, psychological trauma and the Kubler-Ross dying model are now fashionable. What is enigmatic and scary attracts people not of the highest level. Recall that wise people are always ready for their death, for a warrior-man it is an internal duty.

The propaganda of this concept has its both positive and negative sides, and the negative aspects of such propaganda outweigh. For weak people, this theory is rather a relief, an official resolution to experience plus the help to talk about death (which is frightening for many people), plus the suggestion that although in a year you will finally calm down. On the other hand, this theory, when it is submitted as a scientific development, disorients clever and strong people who initially were not inclined to long and difficult experiences. Then this theory begins to work as a pathogenic virus, turning an acute, but perhaps short, pain of loss - into a pain that lasts for months or even years.

To death of one’s own and another’s, as well as to any other loss, one must be ready, and for this it is necessary to prepare. If you set yourself such a task - cope with this, it’s not so difficult.

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