For the manifestation of the bulk of their emotions we answer ourselves. We have a habitual response and anchored emotions, but this is surmountable. In important cases, when we are gathered, no one can force us to experience something against our will and consent.
Any of our emotions should be targeted and expedient.
Emotions are actions. Adult people can control their own and other people’s emotions in the same way as with other actions, and in the same way for their emotions are responsible. Resentment, boredom, fatigue, anger - this is what people do and for what are responsible, as for delays, dishonesty or deception. For the emotions of other people you can ask the same way as for their other actions.
The story from life: the girl was offended. The reaction of her young man: "It seems to me that you do not have the most successful reaction, if I was wrong, I’m ready to discuss this, but it’s worth talking about it to the insults and without resentment." You decided now to get hurt, it’s understandable. Why are you doing this, too? It seems to be understandable.Let’s think about you, in what other ways can you achieve what you want? " The girl thoughtful, then began to discuss and look for other options. Already without resentment.
Emotions are a kind of behavior, and experienced parents are not guided by the manipulation of children when they try to pressure them with their emotions. In a family where parents have power, parents can control the emotions of their children just like any other of their actions.
Sometimes you can not indulge without permission - just as some emotions can not be done without permission (for example, without permission to cry, when you took away someone else’s toy).
Sometimes you need to stop playing, get dressed and go with your parents - you also sometimes need to stop pouting, smiling and going to help your mom.
If the parents have sufficient qualifications to directly control the behavior of the child, they can also directly control and his emotions. The main issue of such education is not the ability to control specifically the emotions of a child, but the ability to control his behavior in principle. If your child does not respond, when you call him, you can not control his emotions, because the child thinks it possible to ignore you. If you have achieved that your child is listening to you, you can take responsibility for his emotions, nurturing the culture of his feelings.
You can teach him how to properly treat your mistakes (not to cry and not scold yourself, but to go and correct), how to treat what you need (to go and do), how to treat difficulties (support yourself, organize help and do what you can), how to treat relatives - with attention and willingness to help.
Your adult attitude to your emotions is a guarantee that adults, your loved ones, and your children will treat emotions in an adult way.