Автор: Н.И. Козлов

A real man

​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Boys and girls are different from the very beginning. Girls since childhood prefer to play dolls, outfits and attitudes, boys are more interesting than cars, something to construct and fight. You can, of course, raise a girl from a boy, but - why? Probably, from the boy it is necessary to bring up the man. A real man.

This man differs from the dork and from the human child. "Let’s be honest whether you are a man or not, it’s not just physiology that determines it, and no" feats "in the field of physiology make a man a man. And to be a real man, at least for the sake of loving you, and never stopped loving yours woman "- a man says to the future man.

A real man is a social role and a collective image, embodying the best masculine traits. Note that at different times and in different cultures the image of a real man could be very different and not always attractive to a modern person. To become a real man, you need a lot - the development of a courageous body, a warm and deep soul, a strong mind and a man’s spirit, as well as views, beliefs and manners appropriate to male culture. See What happened to normal men

What is male culture and the psychology of men?

A man lives by reason, not by feelings and emotions. Difficult questions ponder and decide, but do not worry, do not complain, do not put off on ...

A man is demanding, and first of all to himself. He knows what duty is and "should", and the earlier, the better. Optimum - from three years, from the moment of comprehension of oneself as a person. Errors - you can, correct your mistakes - necessarily and at your own expense.

The man is the one who decides, and who answers for his decisions. If a woman is forced to respond to a decision of a man, this is not a man, but a mama’s son, a masculine. If a man is responsible for the decisions that a woman has taken for him, it’s not a man, but a henpecked, peasant.

A man knows his male responsibilities. Men’s honor: honor the law, protect loved ones and motherland. The man is the defender. A man protects his loved ones and what is dear to him. In any case, he lives not only for himself. A man must build a house, plant a tree and raise a son.

A man has his way and his business. At a minimum, a man knows how to work and is not afraid of work.

A man feels fulfilled and is able to focus on the relationship with a woman if he understands the three most important issues for him: who he is, what he does and how much he earns.

Men do not cry. Persuasion "Men do not cry" is an obligatory part of male education. It’s not a shame to cry for yourself and it’s not harmful. It’s good to cry for joy, you can cry at a funeral, where it’s appropriate and accepted. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men do not cry, because for them it is usually nonsensical, and in order to remain men, that is strong and reasonable people.

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Men are not afraid. The fact that men are not afraid is not a fact, it is the norm of male culture. Fear as a physiological reaction of the organism can sometime happen in every person (albeit to varying degrees), but a boy brought up as a man should do what he should, and not pay attention to his fears, let alone guide them.

Men’s entertainment - fight and grab something. With all due respect to men, it seems that this value is not of the highest order, and being only a man is not yet the height of personal development. One of the meanings of the life of a man is occupation, the seizure of greater territory and power over it.

Note that at different times and in different cultures the image of a real man could be very different and not always attractive to a modern person. However, how to achieve the best of this list? What is the education of a real man?

It’s easier to write what will be a mistake. When a boy is seen as a little and helpless, when he is spared and protected, when he worries first and foremost, "no matter what happens to him," it becomes difficult for a boy to turn into a man. Perhaps he will just rebel and turn into a man through a bully, but this way is dangerous and undesirable. Most likely, a cute, no creature, possibly brought up, will grow up, but without will and male determination, able to feel, but ill-able to set goals and act.

A real man is brought up only by a man, a father must be engaged in the man’s education of a boy. The father will give samples of male behavior and will treat the son as a man. Father will not regret and sympathize, he will first demand, and even his support will be different: support by challenge.

Male education

From women, one can often hear the regret that today’s boys do not have enough male education, and as a result of a lack of male education, men do not show themselves like men. This is a huge truth, are we ready for this kind of education, including whether the women themselves are ready to accept the difficult norms of male education, education as a man?

Main differences between male and female education, see →, as well as articles Men, Men, Men, How to raise a man. Article, site The real men and the education of the boy

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