The most goal-oriented person is the one who very much wants to go to the toilet: all the barriers seem insignificant, everything is insignificant to him, except the goal. Agree, it’s funny to hear phrases like: "I was described, because there was no time to go to the toilet, because I was too tired, because I lost hope and did not believe that I could reach it!"
And also "Of course, he ran, but his legs are so long!"; "This is clearly not for me," "I knocked on the toilet, but I was not opened!", "I did not have enough motivation" or "I decided to do it tomorrow ...".
All these are phrases from the Victim Dictionary. Attention, the question: are these your phrases? Do they help you achieve your goals?
Как перестать верить в то, что ты жертва? Работа на тренинге. Ведущий Н.И.Козлов.
People often make choices in which they do not want to admit themselves, and cover them with false, false excuses in psychological defense.
"I was late because I wanted to get enough sleep." Well, I really wanted to sleep! " - with the subtext "I wanted to sleep so much that I had no strength to resist, it was objectively impossible."
People come up with excuses for themselves - it’s easy. His laziness to assemble himself and move forward can easily be called an age crisis, the fear of building new relationships can easily be formulated by himself (and others) self-sufficiency of his nature, incontinence justified by his character, and his ignorance explained by his emotionality ...
Once the invented excuses are so believable that on the part of overturning them is impossible, confessing the untruth can only the man himself. It also happens in another way when a person has deceived himself so long and successfully that without help from the outside is already difficult. Strong and responsible people in this case can act as educators. Sometimes this happens on psychological training.
At the training, the answer is clarified: "To be honest, I certainly wanted to sleep, but I decided that it’s possible to be late, it was my choice." If I considered the matter to be very important, I would get up on time and not be late. "
How to educate people so that they become the authors of their lives? The main thing is to teach people to be attentive to themselves, so that they stop lying to themselves, covering their real elections with false excuses-excuses. Further - to develop and strengthen the already arisen author’s position.
If you are ready to work on yourself in order to develop your author’s position, to you recommendations: Hold the floor. Keep your posture and smile. Three Auth keys. Learn to give up realistic projects.