The child must understand that you can not run out to the road with transport under any game, you need to have a spoon at the table with a spoon, and not hands, and you need to solve the controversial issues in the game first with requests, and not immediately with a fight. In the end, a small child needs to be taught to write in a pot, and not as horrible.
And this is education.
The science of raising children can be mastered, but in practice for most ordinary parents this luxury is not available. The science of upbringing requires preparation, and it is necessary to master it in stages, from simple to complex.
The first stage is the education of oneself. The second stage is the management of the child. And only the third stage - the education of children.
Teaching educational technology to ordinary parents is pointless: the child is more complicated than the TV, and we are still entrusting the repair of complex home appliances to professionals. God grant us to learn how to use the remote control at least wisely, God forbid us to manage the growing child even competently: not everyone has enough nerves to be reasonable when a beloved child cries so pitifully to us; it is not easy to remain loving, when this monster arranges us wild hysterics. Let’s be realistic: remember that the majority of parents of their children, as they do not consciously educate and educate, in fact, can not, because they live mostly unconsciously and act impulsively.
So, dear parents, be determined: do you want to master the upbringing of the child or the management of it? In order to safely grow a child, management is enough. Education - an exceptionally decent case, but few people in the teeth, it requires either an innate talent, or years of study and training. If in figures - well, suppose 720 training hours, and you can be allowed to children as a decent teacher. Can you boast that you are ready to allocate such a time to educate yourself as a child caregiver? What will you seriously study? Units are subscribed to this. More realistic, after all - the management of the child. It’s cheaper and more practical. You will have a fully manageable child who does not bother you, but rather pleases you, and educates his environment: TV, classmates and the Internet.
Do not build illusions - so there are 98 families out of 100. To become an exception and become the educator of your children, you really need to become an exception and learn how to educate yourself. Learn to work on yourself. Are you ready for this? It seems to us that this is the point in any case: if you do not properly educate your children, perhaps you will raise at least your grandchildren. And if you do not come out with your grandchildren, at least you will educate yourself. This is already a great achievement!
L.N. Tolstoy helps us: "Education is a difficult matter only as long as we want, not educating ourselves, but to educate our children or anyone else.If you realize that we can educate others only through ourselves, the question is abolished about education and there is one question: how to live yourself? "
So, take up self-education and, if possible, do not touch the children, do not prevent them from living. As you progress and vital needs, gradually move on to more and more active child management. And when children become obedient, you can already educate them. And even somehow to be responsible for the results of their own upbringing.
