Автор: Марина Смирнова, психолог

How to become a good wife

​To become a good wife is easy: you just need to learn this. Surely you almost already know how. This you studied for a long time.

Mom teaches her daughter to cook and do household chores, her daughter is learning to be a mistress. Probably, this is the first skill of the wife: to feed the husband and children, to create cosiness in the house, when everything is washed, ironed and tidied. Does every woman know how? No. A good wife - not only can, but also loves.

Grandmother called her granddaughter Sunny, admired her smile, taught to be caring and enjoy life. This is the second skill of the wife, although many intelligent men consider this to be her main quality. A woman is a smile, a woman is a joy; how wonderful it is when a woman is filled with light and love, when her voice sounds like a ringing bell. Indeed, it is the wife who, in the first place, decorates the life of the family. From her mood, from her attentiveness and responsiveness, it depends how much this life will be joyful and happy.

The third skill of the wife is the ability to be a friend and helper for the husband. Who taught her this? Maybe, Dad? Dad believed that his daughter must necessarily be smart. Be able to push aside your emotions, turn your head, think about others and be responsible for your words - these are the qualities of your wife, causing the greatest respect. Men love when they are interested in their opinion, when they are asked and discuss issues without emotions, calmly and reasonably.

Do not say long, stop more often and ask: "What do you think?" - it will be very nice for a man. He said, you do not agree - do not hurry, think. Repeat what he said, ask if you understood him correctly - this is much better than disputes. Try to agree with what he is all right after all - you will succeed, because you are clever and married an intelligent man. If you respect your husband more, he will respect you more.

​​​​​​​A good wife is always an attentive and wise mother. A woman is ready to love her children, no matter what they are, and it is important for a man that his children grow up to be worthy people. And who first of all brings up children? All the same, first of all, - mum. And if the husband sees how gaily and patiently you decide all their questions with the children, organize them games and make them, teach them to do their own lessons - be sure, this man will always appreciate it.

Test "I’m Sunny"

The test "I’m Sunny" is a convenient way to find out your prospects for family happiness. Only the woman who is Queen herself will meet her King. And what can you count on? Answering simple questions, you get a portrait of a man you can claim. If you are ready to work on yourself, we will also give you recommendations on what you pay attention to that your personal life was happier.

The next quality is a difficult, rare quality, but who said that being a good wife is easy? A good wife is a good organizer. First, she knows how to organize herself. She has a business plan for the day, and in the evening the main things are done. Moreover, she has thought over not only family matters, but everything related to her own affairs - beauty and health. She knows how both to organize yourself to exercise, and relax during the day (oh, how not easy it may be!), and in the evening lie down on time. Women who abandoned themselves for one reason or another, after a while, cease to like themselves, and sometimes worse - cease to respect themselves. And then life with them becomes very difficult.

By the way, to organize is not to do everything yourself. It means to make sure that all things are done. Family - it does not matter whether it consists of two people, or more (add more children and relatives here) is already a group that needs to be organized. Starting with the one who goes first in the shower, and ends with those who go to the store today or cook dinner. And it is not necessary to exhaust yourself with a heap of endless domestic affairs, sometimes it’s easier to ask someone for help. True, for this you need to be able to ask so that it was easy and pleasant for the relatives to help you, ask cheerfully and affectionately, and also understandably. Ask for reasonable and doable. It sounds easy, but do you always choose words and intonations, do you know how to choose the right moment, ask in advance that the one you ask for help can not strain and finish their business?

We rise higher: if the husband is the head of the family, then a good wife is a hidden family leader, setting up an atmosphere in the family and setting tasks for the husband, which he must solve in a man’s voice. Family - a woman’s business, and think over all the main family matters – women’s care. The mistress of the house with the owner of her business has a common need to set goals for herself. Perhaps, this is the most difficult thing in the profession "to be a good wife"? Organize yourself, knowing that no one will ask. Knowing that once you can sleep an extra hour - today and tomorrow. Or do not exercise. And do not really strain - at once no one will notice anything, even you yourself. That is, of course, everything will become noticeable, but later - in 10 years ... Perhaps this is a small female feat: every day to do their work, even if not everyone notices and appreciates it. But if you do this, you know how to raise yourself and your loved ones - they will treat you seriously. You yourself will take care of yourself - seriously.

To do household chores, raise children, take care of the husband and elderly parents, gather friends and relatives, congratulate them on holidays and remember their birthdays - the household chores abound. The sooner you learn how to do all this, the sooner the time will come when it will become easy for you, and creativity will come to replace the tedious and heavy monotony. To make pies, when you know how to do it well, and are proud of your talents, is joy. The same joy as choosing beautiful cards, having time to write sincere and kind words. Or - to bring comfort to the house, rejoicing that you have someone to clean up, and knowing that the assistants will come at your first call.

And to admire the most loving person in the world, whom you yourself found and - only quiet! - Of course, she also brought up. Have you noticed that husbands have better character in good wives? A good wife brings up not only children, she will teach her husband to wash his hands, and talk calmly, without shouting, even when he wants to solve everything as men are used to - quickly and forcefully. A good wife is patient. A good wife knows the magic words: "Yes, dear," "Of course, dear!", "As you say, so we will do it"
after which the husband ceases to insist on his most correct decisions and begins to listen to other intelligent people. That is - his wise wife. You, beloved and wonderful, the most beautiful in the world!

When you become a good wife, the simplest thing left is to find the man who is looking for you. More precisely, choose from the set of people who want the best husband - someone you can love. Because a good wife is such a rarity that she can afford to choose.

You can do it all!

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