I was asked a question from a woman: "Can a man make his wife a real mistress, a birch-tree, a keeper of the hearth, soft and pliable, supporting, infinitely faithful, happy, relaxed, smiling, rejoicing woman? Is it possible? Or everything depends only from women? "
My answer is: yes, sometimes it’s possible.
Conditions: For a man, this woman is not one of many, but - a favorite. To change oneself is to abandon oneself in some way past, and then a woman should know well why she needs it. She will agree to change herself if she understands and feels that she not only refuses something, but how much she gets. And most importantly, it acquires - for many years! - worthy of a man who really loves her.
Man can love. He educates her not just for her convenience, but caring about her, about her future and her happiness. Women sometimes tend to scold themselves - he will stop it and teach them to respect and appreciate. It is difficult for women to remember their own obligations - it will be her memory and her support, he will help her do what she wants from herself and what they want together.
A man knows how to lead. That is, never swear, do not blame, and do two main things: support and give clear hints-orders. If everything is in order - a man looks at his beloved and does not hide it with admiration. If something is not right, he says that you need to do something different or different.
Importantly - this man is not anyhow, it’s a worthy man, for whom the woman will hold on. It’s not just a standing man, it’s a real man. He has a good mind, appearance, status and salary, he is a good lover and a friend, an excellent father - in short, a woman has something to lose in choosing "With him - or without him."
And this man is not afraid of his beloved demand. Demand only reasonable things and only in the appropriate environment, but - demand and seek that this will be done. He is ready to discuss his demands, he is ready to explain why this is necessary, but if he decides to demand it will not resolve, it is necessary just to accept and not to bite.
Yes, and requirements imply strict measures in case of non-fulfillment. Love is love, but you need to behave properly. It is for the love to last forever, it is necessary to see that both spouses behave in a decent way, keep themselves within. A real man loves his wife, ready to pay with her for the highest rate, but if the wife (suddenly) ceases to be the one he loves, he is ready to part with it. This is an extreme measure, but he is ready for this, and the gap does not frighten him so much that he ceases to follow the reasonable rules in the family.
In Meshchera I was approached by an intelligent, talented and very charismatic young man with the question: I want to introduce the Family Constitution into the family, I want to start living in a new way, to introduce new rules, but my wife resists (saying, why). What should I do, advanced?
First. Become an ideal husband. A golden man. That there was nothing to find fault with. Can you? To live so a week or two, it’s better a month.
The second. After that, say as the head of the family: "My dear wife, I want our family to have the following rules ... I want to live in a family in which mutual respect and support reign, in which ... (enumerate). Otherwise, I do not intend to live. Can we make such a family? Where do we start? "
If a woman is intelligent, she will listen and agree.
If a man is a decent and reasonable person, then the woman next to him is not anyhow, but reasonable, and, in particular, this means that she is ready to obey the man. As a self-respecting woman, she will not do it thoughtlessly, but after talking and understanding: why it is expected of her and what her husband specifically asks. On the other hand, if it is necessary, it will do this, that it is expected not only occasionally and in the mood, but always when it is needed. She will listen to her husband seriously, how people behave at work.
Under these conditions, they will succeed: he will be a happy husband, and she is the best in the world and the most beloved wife. And if they are still familiar with what the Distance is, they will get it easier and faster. Those who are familiar with the Distance, are able to work well on themselves, they know how to work smartly and honestly.
If all these conditions are met - yes, they can all turn out and, most likely, will work. Yes, if you are not yet on the Distance - I recommend!