Oxytocin makes married/loving men stay away from temptresses

Source: Meyer, Dixie (2007). "Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors and Their Effects on Relationship Satisfaction". The Family Journal 15 (4): 392 - 397.

PROBLEM: As is known, oxytocin, a hormone secreted by the pituitary gland (especially during orgasm and delivery), affects our behavior. It promotes the emergence and development of a sense of attachment, sometimes to the point that we become conformists. Scientists from Germany have suggested that a small amount of the so-called "love hormone" during a flirtation with a sexual stranger can push us to a closer relationship and bring to a risky connection with him.

METHODS OF RESEARCH: In the group of scientists, the most attractive woman was chosen, which was to approach the men under test. Prior to the meeting, each of the 57 subjects was administered oxytocin or placebo in the form of a nose spray. An attractive female researcher had to stand at a distance of about 60 centimeters from a man. Then she approached the subjects, then left. The men were asked to determine at what point the attractive woman was at the most ideal, in their opinion, distance. In addition, they had to indicate at what point it was approaching "too close" - so much that they began to feel uncomfortable.

After the end of the experiment, the men confirmed that the attractive woman was actually attractive.

RESULTS: To the surprise of scientists, those men who had been administered oxytocin and who were married or maintained a permanent relationship with one partner preferred to stay at a greater distance from the attractive seductress - the hormone "included" a sense of attachment, but not to a stranger, but to a partner who plays an important role in the life of a man. They tried to keep the distance - on average, 10 to 15 centimeters farther in comparison with single subjects under the influence of oxytocin, or those of them who received placebo instead of oxytocin.

When a male researcher approached the men under test (whose appearance was doubtful), they all behaved identically. The difference arose regardless of the number of visual contacts with the person approaching them - a woman or a man.

Perception of the women’s external attractiveness by the male subjects did not depend on the presence of oxytocin in their blood, nor on the presence of their constant partner.

CONCLUSION: Oxytocin promotes the formation of monogamous relationships, not allowing men to "demonstrate their sensory interest" to other women.

CONCLUSION: If you have a permanent relationship with the same partner, but there is no oxytocin at hand in the aerosol package, there are many other ways to stimulate the release of oxytocin into the blood. Of course, sex, but it’s also useful to hold hands, touch each other - all this contributes to the release of the hormone. But scientists warn: "It is quite obvious that in order to feel the result of the action of the hormone and make sure of the partner’s faithfulness, women should provoke the release of this hormone just before the situation arises where her partner can see other women."

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