"A life without love is not life, but existence. That’s why the soul is given to the person to love ... "
Maxim Gorky (Alexey Maksimovich Peshkov)
I want to share my experience. Well, who among us with his affectionate, capricious, obedient, demanding, mischievous children somewhere does not say: "I love you, my gold!"? To which "our treasure" immediately declares: "I love you too!" And here, attention, it is at this moment, we can work miracles! To do this, just ask: "How did you like me today? I, for example, loved you today when I cooked you your favorite delicious porridge "Friendship", set the table, made you a sandwich, kissed you in the morning, so warm and half asleep, wished good morning, pleasant appetite, a happy and successful day ... ". The child may be a bit overwhelmed at first.
But further there can be absolutely different turns. My son, for example, was upset that he did not like me much compared to me, and I suggested that he think about it and say what he can do until the end of today, so that I could feel his love in it. see →
Yes, I almost forgot about the most pleasant moment! When you sorted out these questions, you can casually say: "But you know, you did not notice, and I saw how you loved me when I put the shoes on the shelf, and did not leave at the door when I poured water into the decanter from which they drank all when he neatly made his bed, when he courted the parrot, replacing his food and water, when he was polite with the teachers at school, when he threw the candy wrapper from the candy into the urn, and not to the sidewalk, etc. ... ", - at this moment you will make your child happy.
And you can ask the question: "How would you like me to love you?" - and after this question a very interesting conversation will begin.
Only one request - do not start such talk about love when you are unhappy with the child. As a claim, the position "A child, you still love me badly" - does not work. Save this topic only for joy, and the joy in your family will be even greater!