Love consists of three parts: from care, joy and attention. If mom cares for us, she feeds us all, washing and ironing your clothes, she loves us. But my grandmother is more concerned about us, we must take care of her ourselves, but what kind of person does she have when you come to her? Joyful? - Yes. It means that she loves you.
Also, if you do something good for your grandmother, you love her. What have you already done good for your grandmother?
Here the children gladly boast. Give them this joy!
You are wonderful, good fellows! And did all this for the grandmother with joy? (Yes!) - So you love your grandmother.
And who was more than happy to do grandmother’s pies: you or you? So (strain a little)...
And when you quarreled and stopped making pies – did you love your grandmother? (Loved!) It’s not true! At this time, you have forgotten about her. And the third part of love is about remembering who you love. If some mother sat down at the computer, was carried away and forgot to make a dinner in time for the children - such a mother is not the best. A good mother remembers the most important things always. Do you agree? So you: while you were making pies, you thought about your grandmother. And as they began to quarrel, you are distracted by your quarrel. It happens. And when you digress, you already do not like it. And how long do you know how to do something and not be distracted?
And then the conversation can be taken to another topic. Immediately, many children load such a difficult topic – it’s not worth it. Do not hurry. Return to this conversation later, after a couple of hours or tomorrow, for some tea or when with them go somewhere.
So, I have a question for you: who has remembered about love? What it is?
And now tell me how much you love your mother! Who loves mother more? (They draw their hands: I, I!). Well, prove that you love more. (They argue). Good. And now who will answer faster: who do you love besides your mother? (Grandma, Dad, Aunt Lyuba, Margarita Petrovna, Uncle Kostya, Kostya!). Well done! And a test of memory: who of you can repeat, whom did you name and in what order did you name it? Somehow from memory restore.
Who do you think is more loved, more often in the beginning or somewhere in the end? (More often at the beginning). Correctly. And now, attention, a question for the smartest. Who at us clever? And who is very clever? And the most-most? We agree: if the question is difficult and it will be difficult to answer you, it’s not scary, right? Then - attention - the question: "And it will take several years, you will grow up and grow wiser ... Do you even smarter as you think?" (Yes!) I think so too. Well, when you grow up, in what order will you to call those whom you love...
Let them think...
Now, after your mother, you were the first to name Grandma, Papa, then Aunt Lyuba, and so on-and remember. In a few years: who and in what order will you have to already call? When you grow smarter and grow up? Will something change in you?
Think, guess ... Think ... Well, after a while they are prompted that is not enough in their list - each other!
True, after all, when you grow up and grow wiser, you will less often quarrel, will more often help each other and protect each other. Are you willing to help each other, protect each other? Smart and adults it’s always done, and who do you think will grow up and grow up faster? (...) You are all good fellows!
Next time at the table, let them tell everything they understood from this conversation. And then you can add one more topic: And there still one more person was missing, whom you should have named ... (Who?) Think! (They are wondering). With all their additives should agree, but in the end to say: you did not name yourself.
Question: Do you need to take care of yourself? In the morning to put on your pants, and not to ransack the apartment? Shoelaces themselves to tie, and not to call a grandmother for this? And when you take care of yourself, should the face be content or sour? (An interesting discussion is starting, what is love for oneself).
Possible variants of the conversation further:
The last time I asked who you love. Today’s competition - what do you love! Who will call more? (Noise, din, scream a lot). Excellent! And now - what does grandmother love? And what about mom? And what do I like? (Let them think, and the distraction is useful before a difficult question). And now repeat your lists, what you like, but in order: first of all, what you like most, then that you love less, then even less... (They are happy to tell).
Attention, and now the task for the advanced: you have a list of people you love (mom, grandma, dad, aunt Lyuba...) and what you like (here their favorite games, TV shows, cartoons and much more). Make a general list: what will come first: mom or cartoons? (Sometimes they say mother, sometimes they think.) Then talk only in a cheerful, easy voice):
Remember, you were sitting at the telecom, and my mother asked you to help her gather it on the table. You helped her, remember? (Yes, I helped my mom!). True, but your face was joyful when your mom turned to you? (No, not joyful, but there was also a cartoon!) - True, it happens. At that time, you also loved your mother, but at that moment you loved the cartoon more. So? Not this way? (Smile, laugh...)
Then the theme of love can move to many more important points - schedule them yourself. Here is another interesting twist:
So, my dear, does it sometimes happen that you do not love your mother? I think that happens. And what do you think? (Agree). Yesterday it was at what time? (here in different ways). Yes, Mom love us all need to learn. What do you think we should do for mom today? (a friendly brainstorm begins).
I suggest in the comments to write your own options for talking with children. Success and love to us!