Автор: Н.И. Козлов

I object to your jealousy

At the University of Practical Psychology, one of the practical tasks is to write a letter to a close person, for example, a spouse, about a situation that you are completely unhappy with. Here in the article I tell how to build such a conversation about difficult relationships. But the specific situations are all different, and here I give a variant of the conversation about jealousy, more precisely, I give two options: a soft and hard option. These options were suggested by Alexander Rabotkevich, thank you! Well, I modified it. Try on yourself!


Soft letter

"I love you, and I will say it again and again: I love you! And I know that you love me, too. Hooray! Therefore I am happy! But there is one dark cloud in our sky: you are jealous of me. And you’re not right!

You want me to be always with you and give you all my attention: it’s right, I agree with this, I want the same. I also like to spend time with you. But my business trips have not been canceled yet (have not we canceled yet?), And someday you’ll have to get bored without me. I have a hope that you will be bored without me, but I do not want you to worry or you get spoiled by the feeling that I’m not around. When you smile and you are in a good mood, you are so beautiful!

But there is one more situation. This is the situation when you begin to suspect that I am meeting with someone else during my absence. Moreover, I am not satisfied with the situation when you start looking for something that can be confirmed by these suspicions. And the point here is not only that you spoil your health with negative emotions, the point is that it’s humiliating for me. I’m not a beast. What do you think about this?

When do you think it’s more pleasant to return home: when I am greeted with suspicions and claims and even the flowers given give rise to the question-statement: "Do you want to get ready? So, you feel something for yourself! "? Or when a loving wife meets meets me with happy eyes? I’ll tell you - I like the second option much more.

Please, always meet in a good mood, this is better for you, and for me. For my part, I am always ready to answer any of your questions and dispel any of your doubts - after you kiss me, feed and ask these questions in a calm, friendly format. I am sure that everything will be as good for us, so everything started with us. We love each other! Agreed?

"Hard letter"

You again looked at my correspondence and made me hysterical. I understand that you suspect me of something? You know, I consider myself to be a decent person, and if I had a relationship with another woman, I would openly say so. For me it’s very serious, I respect myself. I love you and I am convinced that there should be no unworthy people near you. If you suspect me of unworthy behavior, I see no reason to prove anything, especially since the presumption of innocence in our country has not yet been abolished. Apparently, I’m not the one who deserves you and with whom you can be happy. Think - if you really imagine that I do not love you and I can behave unworthily, if you do not respect me, then we disagree without mutual insults and claims. If this is an accident, then you reassure yourself, you do not do it any more and I respect you. What do you think? Please make your choice! ".

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