The parents’ authority is shown in respect of their children, in the importance for the children of what their parents say: if children listen and listen to their parents naturally, voluntarily, recognizing their status - parents have authority. If the children fulfill the requests and demands of the parents only according to their mood, or by coercion or through bribery, the parental authority can not be said.
If parents want to successfully educate their children, they need to take care of their authority. First and foremost, the authority of the father is important: if the word of the father is the law, it is enough for mother to just be calm and joyful. However, it is also useful for the mother to be able to build relationships so that the children obey her.
The authority of parents is created either by parents themselves, or by cultural or religious traditions. Old believers usually have more authority than Orthodox Christians, Muslims usually have more authority than Christians. In Russia, the authority of parents in Ingushetia and Chechnya is high, it is believed that the child’s cult is harmful to the child and the principle "All the best for adults" and "the elder" is implemented in a natural way.
How parents form their authority
The authority of parents from the sky does not fall. The fact that you gave birth to a child and brought up, in itself for the child is not an argument: "Did I ask you about this?" The fact that you are older and smarter for a child does not mean anything: "And it does not concern me!". If parents do not have authority (parents did not take care to form themselves), their words and orders will be ignored by children and, moreover, be perceived as conflict agents: "What are you preventing us from doing our own business?"
Authority must be formed. The authority to form is possible. How? See →